A lot of people are told to just “ask for help when you need it” But when that doesn’t work, here’s what I want you to know: * You need SYSTEMS, not conversations. A visible task chart makes everyone accountable without you managing it * Default mode is trained, not genetic. Your partner CAN see the mess, they’ve just been conditioned that you’ll handle it * Fair doesn’t mean 50/50. It means both partners get equal rest time, regardless of who does what tasks That’s why I put together the Shared